Good thoughts....1

1. Secrets to a fulfilled life: See the good, expect the best and believe that by God's love, wisdom and guidance, you can make a difference.
2. You'll never be brave if you don't get hurt; you'll never learn if you don't have mistakes; you'll never be successful if you don't encounter failure; negative results doesn't mean it will always happen again, because we will always start on the ground just to appreciate our way to the top.
3. REFLECTIONS: Sometimes God breaks our spirit to save our soul. Sometimes He breaks our heart to make us whole. Sometimes, He sends us pain so we can be stronger. Sometimes He sends us failure so we can be humble. Sometimes He sends us illness so we can take better care of our selves. Sometimes, He takes "everything" away from us so we can learn the value of "everything" we have.
4. Though my days have been worst at times, I still reserve a reason to smile...though trials seemed to test my strength, I'm still keeping my faith...Because i know that after every tear that falls from my eyes comes a new spark of happiness that is even greater than every pain I felt... Keep up the faith.
5. Life becomes wonderful even if there are struggles and difficulties because God is so loving and inspiring who Heals the pain and keep us going strong! Jesus is my medicine when I'm in pain, my letter when I'm far, my smile when I'm sad, my handkerchief when I cry, and my life when I die. Let's live for Jesus!
6. A raindrop may seem too small to matter but somewhere, a thirsty flower awaits its fall.Though what we do may seem insignificant, somewhere a heart remembers. Our little good deeds always leave a trace, no matter how faint.
7. Good reminders: Be soft, do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may discourage, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.
8. Positive thinking is not about expecting the best to happen. It's about accepting that whatever will happen, it's the best.
9.The finest hour in our life is when we have done good things to nameless people without expecting them to remember our acts of love & kindness. God knows what you have done & He will reward you more than you can imagine! Keep going.....
10.Our minds gather the dirt and dust of human opinion every day, but God's graces are like waterfalls that wash and purify our hearts & minds always.

Your first day in the world

On your natal day, you bring joy to your parents especially to your mother who carried you for (9) nine months since conception up to the time you are born. She gave you all the possible & needed care, good and necessary extra care with diligence to nurture your so fragile life from the moment of fertilization.

Now that you are what you are, did it occur to you that your mother has sacrificed so much that she would not mind giving her life if it would mean you're free from danger, giving you the assurance of complete protection and survival? You are the gem of your parent's eyes as God is happy to see with His creation. Some of the myriad of reasons why God loves you: God is love, for He created you by His love through your parents. God is wonderful because He molded you perfectly and beautifully as you are made in His image and likeness. God is kind and merciful, for He sent His son Jesus to die for you and save us from the bondage of sin. God is just as He assures you a share in heaven by believing Him through His son Jesus Christ. God is joy because He let His precious son Jesus to be born like you in this world. Therefore on this day as you celebrate your birthday, be HAPPY!

THE FEELING OF BEING NO. 2 ...........

My wife was too cynical and her feeling of being number 2 was bothering her that she wanted to discover to prove her feeling wrong. She had proven right in all of her speculations, starting basically from circumstances where there were special occasions, sign of change of preferences, testimonials and actual experiences. Though she was afraid of knowing the truth more as she knew that "further you know it hurts", she was not really meant to stop. The more she wanted to ignore, the greater the feeling of eagerness pushed her to learn it.

The same observation was taking place in my own life. I too had come to my senses, from skepticism due to perhaps of my long slumber under the pretense that I have known the truth or of my denial that it did exist like I was under hypnosis. With all the pieces of evidence embedded in the situation all points to the same direction, one could not be mistaken, the change was real and was happening; then we had the mutual feelings of being second fiddle right there.

The following situations were our basis for doubts which led us to seek and know more about the facts, such as; we had an experiences of not complete and we're already left out of some important but family gatherings, the priorities and preferences were given to other people which at first hardly acceptable and very disappointing, the bold affirmation of likes and dislikes which were of direct contrast to what we’ve used to, and finally the actual occurrence of events that we've been afraid of was to witness the affair.

We could not help but accept the reality that our children are grown up kids and are matured enough. It’s about time that they will choose their own destinies in life. With difficulty or great pains, we can give them enough space to live and be independent especially if they are already married. They have their own world and priorities.

Let’s accept that we are already number 2 in their lives. It’s a consolation on our part that in our hearts they are still our priorities.

A Compilation of Posts.....

No guts no glory. Every sacrifice has a fruitful reward, every failure has a second chance. We only have to be strong by God's grace to make it through the tests of life, just believe and have faith. LIFE isn't perfect but wherever LIFE leads you, it's because of a purpose.
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 You know me. Heal me. Bring me back into the fold of your arms. I tried to live up to your expectations but nonetheless prefer to live mine. I choose to pass an easy path for a happiness that wont last. HELP ME FIND YOUR WAY for Love, Peace, Joy and eternity...!
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 Feel the real sweetness of joy after you've experienced the bitterness of sadness. If only we could appreciate the contrast of life, we would know that life is so colorful.
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 In this wrangling world, life is a constant battle for survival. As we grow older, the rules change on daily basis. Our mission is not to escape, but to survive; Not to deal with triumph, but to deal with failure; Not to run away from fear, but to master it. It takes courage to keep on fighting. So, if you feel like rules has shifted one step higher, deal it with greater faith and never ever surrender.
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 Time is so precious that no amount of money worth to compensate the lost time...don't let the opportune time pass without saying "I love you to the people who deserves to know your affection". May be your tomorrow never comes!
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 Learn to love music. When you are involved in playing and listening music, you enter into a different world. You react as music reaches to different parts of your body. It reinvigorates your energy thus gives you the feeling to clap or dance or even cry which release your negative feeling. Music can help your fight even in the most difficult situation, it would help your mind stay cool. You can easily forget words in any speech but easily remember lyrics and tunes in the songs. It can capture imaginations, new creativeness and let our minds wander, thus you would find new ideas and new approaches to deal the varied spectrum of our lives.           ---------------
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 As I grew up I learn to communicate and love music. Music is one of the mediums the living animals used to communicate each other. As time went on, we love to like almost every type of music from pop, rock, slow rock, jazz, classical, new age music and the like. We all agree that music is the part of our world and our nature.
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 God never gives a burden heavier than we can carry. No matter what, He wants us to be happy than sad. If birds sing after the storm, why can't we? No one has traveled the bridge of success without ever crossing the streets of trials. God never promised us an easy journey in life, only safety on board. Smile, then be happy! If God is with you no one can defeat you. You can be sure how the journey is going to end.
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 Don't think that you are already successful when everybody seems envious because everything is coming your way. Reflect and pay attention you might be in the wrong way. Success is not measured by the attainment of wealth, positions, honors and popularity all by inheritance, but by doing what is good to the people regardless of affiliation, class or religion. Hence we will respect you out of love but not out of fear, as respect is earned and not imposed.

Procrastination

Friday, January 6, 2012 Limited Time:

In my understanding of time constraints is simply putting a time frame or dead line in the accomplishment of one’s task. It’s a time allotted or designated where one is expected to execute or finish a work. So if you fail by default or by not doing your job by not meeting the deadline you suffered the consequence of time constraints because you allow your time to lapse and prescribed and therefore the result is decided against or prejudicial to your interest.

I have realized that my tasks, duties and responsibilities as the head of a family more so as a father to my children have great influence and have huge impact to their values and attitudes, aspirations and moral upbringing. I can now be judged whether I passed or failed through their actuation and status in the society and how they relate to the people around them. My point here is had I been learned of this gargantuan responsibilities before while my children were yet young and still in the development process, I believe there are still lot of improvements and enhancements to what I personally perceived before as an Ideal one, making use and without waste of the limited time with the children. Too much time for our work unknowingly enslave us that even the quality of family affairs are deprecated giving much concern for my job, in the name of productivity and performance as a worker. In other words, we give much time for our jobs and lesser times for our kids, even during days-off intended for family day are oftentimes sacrificed for rest day premium work of the company. 

Time is of the essence, it is gold so precious that no times are the same. Once wasted will never come back unlike lost riches will still be recovered. We are given time constraints each for every child we have for their proper molding, preparation to become a better person. Once we lost a single moment to them will have a rifling effect in terms of family cohesion. In some instances it will cause a drift of preferences away from the families and temporarily give them the taste of security and comforts within and among their peers.

This time we shall give primordial consideration on family togetherness, and reasons to talk. Modern families are mobile, and children begin getting involved in extracurricular activities at young ages. It is important to establish a weekly or monthly meeting that nothing will conflict with as observed it is difficult to have a family to come together, it is advisable to plot already a schedule for family day. When you schedule a formal time to gather and talk as a family, your children will also be given an opportunity to learn many lessons and be informed of the parent’s plans for their children’s carrier and future. The constant information of their children may serve as reminder to their well being as part of the family. Conflicts can be handled during this meeting, involved parties are given time to express their viewpoints and acknowledged, but eventually parents will make decision even if children can disagree with, still they can feel validated knowing their voices are ventilated and heard if not considered. As open communication enhanced, issues of vital importance can now be discussed without inhibition even those deemed taboo by conservative or old-fashioned people in the presence of the young members of the families, like choosing their future partners, livelihood that can affect their day to day subsistence and world events that may even influence their fears or aspirations through news. Parents can use this time to establish and explain family values and attitudes build upon those as they grow. And two ways approach as parents should also use this opportunity to listen to what children have to say about their understanding of family values. The end result of this, children will learn about compromise and self-sacrifice and more importantly the respect of one’s opinion and practiced consensus problem solving.

From the Child

I know I’m a grown up kid but for me as your child you’re my one and only father whom I need and always ready to give guidance and protection. You remain my protector and so do I will remain under your stewardship unless by reason of age or otherwise bestowed by clear explicit manifestation that I already broke the shackles of authority by marriage and a change of domicile. The way I see it if there is a need for your intervention to reform my personal character/traits on issues of health and the like then in all good reasons as my father, at any time you can do it.

I can’t fathom why this happening, my irrational actuation, senseless happy go lucky attitude seems controlling my person. Could I blame you if lots of prejudices in what I’ve done in relation to my situation and predicaments came into your mind? Perhaps you could say repeatedly to me where did you falter as a father and guardian to warrant these worries. All that matter is I did no wrong except that I forgot someone like you won’t cease to care for our own good. Well may be you are still skeptical whether or not I’m telling the truth but the point here is nobody from my siblings can tell where I am because I just wanted to be alone. I have prayed for us to be resilient, enlightened, put closures to my past misgivings and reestablish relationship among us in a more holistic understanding of the family. I understand your objective is for us to maintain well being in different domains, continue enhancing our ability to develop competence not only to survive but to thrive over the rat-race advocacy and adverse world.

I realize this can only be done by family cohesion. Cohesive families are more intertwined by interpersonal closeness, high levels of communication and harmony, and at least refrain and never engage even moderate levels of engagement.

I know it is really bad for you to be stress out. But this parenting entails a lot of worries, and may be, sleepless nights may cause you so much stress, because you’ll be concerned about our whereabouts and have the feelings of being unable to disciple me or us effectively. Hoping it is not too late. Forgive me for all these in-sensitivities. Take good care, I love you.

Time Flies ....(Tempus Fugit)

Reminiscence some say is gratifying the past. Yes and No, because it also helps purify or polish something or improve a situation in the future, because if you recall unforgettable experiences you will try to avoid events or actions that gave you problems. In other words your error becomes a mistake because you don’t correct it. Who is perfect anyway? But if you had allowed it to happen and commit another mistake(s) then you’ll be a recidivist. Make your past memories be a lesson; good or bad shall be refined. Forget those that bother you most, pull you down in at the abyss of ignominy and heartaches. Treat them as life challenges and opportunities.  To a certain degree this will put your energy into more useful endeavor and a healthy end.

Your mom had sacrificed a lot. We were mostly affected emotionally by her temporary absence from our midst before, when she went to the Land of freedom and opportunities for greener pasture. What is important now is our present day to day subsistence. It is of the essence that we acknowledged our shortcomings and imperfections. Let us be honest to ourselves and practice humility. Respect is bestowed first in the family as member and as a person. Let us talk and listen to one another and be consensus in any matter. As long as we live together as one family, am your father and I will assert my authority and responsibility as head of the family.

If she could be followed, your mom wanted to grow old with you, but what she meant as I assumed, she likes to stay with you probably longer than always.  This is just water under the bridge. She is completely gone from us with no hope of seeing her but not anymore to this world again, only if possible, I would like to, even in dreams we can communicate, help us in any predicaments that we are in may be we can be together in the other dimensions through her intercession. What is certain is not her returning but my going sooner or later. Predestined as it may we can’t stop our life cycle. So our goal is your good upbringing and to mold you into a better person. Although she knew everything changes as time goes by, but we expect that you’ll change for the better not on the contrary. Life sails sometimes on rough seas and on stormy weather. That’s what parents do to lead and guide you when you’re learning to comprehend complicated things and make you strong, develop sturdy muscle physically and mentally prepared in any eventualities or when you’ll have family of your own.

We shed tears in joy and we didn’t know how to manifest our happiness and how proud we are when you show your special talents and become responsible. Very proud that our children are society's assets, professionals,  but our hearts bleed too when you unknowingly tolerate and become irresponsible and disrespectful to yourself and may be to other people, slowly eaten up by the other side effects of the hip hops, Sci-Fi, Wifi tech and by your wanton disregard of the very norm and time honored values your forefathers had instilled us to respect and follow.

You may not realize the true worth and value of a thing unless the thing is lost. “Tempus fugit… Memento mori (L)” Time flies…Remember you are mortal!