Procrastination

Friday, January 6, 2012 Limited Time:

In my understanding of time constraints is simply putting a time frame or dead line in the accomplishment of one’s task. It’s a time allotted or designated where one is expected to execute or finish a work. So if you fail by default or by not doing your job by not meeting the deadline you suffered the consequence of time constraints because you allow your time to lapse and prescribed and therefore the result is decided against or prejudicial to your interest.

I have realized that my tasks, duties and responsibilities as the head of a family more so as a father to my children have great influence and have huge impact to their values and attitudes, aspirations and moral upbringing. I can now be judged whether I passed or failed through their actuation and status in the society and how they relate to the people around them. My point here is had I been learned of this gargantuan responsibilities before while my children were yet young and still in the development process, I believe there are still lot of improvements and enhancements to what I personally perceived before as an Ideal one, making use and without waste of the limited time with the children. Too much time for our work unknowingly enslave us that even the quality of family affairs are deprecated giving much concern for my job, in the name of productivity and performance as a worker. In other words, we give much time for our jobs and lesser times for our kids, even during days-off intended for family day are oftentimes sacrificed for rest day premium work of the company. 

Time is of the essence, it is gold so precious that no times are the same. Once wasted will never come back unlike lost riches will still be recovered. We are given time constraints each for every child we have for their proper molding, preparation to become a better person. Once we lost a single moment to them will have a rifling effect in terms of family cohesion. In some instances it will cause a drift of preferences away from the families and temporarily give them the taste of security and comforts within and among their peers.

This time we shall give primordial consideration on family togetherness, and reasons to talk. Modern families are mobile, and children begin getting involved in extracurricular activities at young ages. It is important to establish a weekly or monthly meeting that nothing will conflict with as observed it is difficult to have a family to come together, it is advisable to plot already a schedule for family day. When you schedule a formal time to gather and talk as a family, your children will also be given an opportunity to learn many lessons and be informed of the parent’s plans for their children’s carrier and future. The constant information of their children may serve as reminder to their well being as part of the family. Conflicts can be handled during this meeting, involved parties are given time to express their viewpoints and acknowledged, but eventually parents will make decision even if children can disagree with, still they can feel validated knowing their voices are ventilated and heard if not considered. As open communication enhanced, issues of vital importance can now be discussed without inhibition even those deemed taboo by conservative or old-fashioned people in the presence of the young members of the families, like choosing their future partners, livelihood that can affect their day to day subsistence and world events that may even influence their fears or aspirations through news. Parents can use this time to establish and explain family values and attitudes build upon those as they grow. And two ways approach as parents should also use this opportunity to listen to what children have to say about their understanding of family values. The end result of this, children will learn about compromise and self-sacrifice and more importantly the respect of one’s opinion and practiced consensus problem solving.