Carlos Gomez was born in an Aries zodiac sign, normal and grew up
as an aggressive teen age child who lived in rustic area whose parents were
farmers, loved fishing in the mountain river, used to play his neighborhood
peers, hide and seek, shooting and catching birds. At weekends his father
loved to go hunting wild pigs and wild chicken in the forest with him using
long rifle cal. 22.
He said they had a prey
with a wild boar; they could not carry together the prey for 50 meters more
because it’s too heavy and he was young and helpless in that situation from the
middle of the jungle. Realizing the predicaments, his father left the dead wild
boar, put some live bullets at the top of the prey, (until now he didn’t
understand what does it signify the putting of live bullets on the prey) and
accompany him get out the forest and instructed him to inform and fetch his grandpa
and his uncles to help his father carry the prey from the middle of the jungle.
He has nine siblings in the family with one brother as the
seventh sibling with eight sisters. So he grew up with his sisters at his side
as helpers to their parents, make copra and meet some of their daily family
chores. Being the only male as aid to the family often left him the burden
especially that his father got a lingering and recurring illness for the period of 2 years. He had to quit schooling for the same period to do the farming.
Further as he told, life of farmers in the place where he was raised had been really that hard. It was very difficult to just depend on the farm produce in the year round. They experienced a situation so mired in poverty with no sufficient food for the family, no budget for health of the family members and practically nothing for their education. At young age he learned to dream a better life and help his family in that dire need to uplift their economic conditions.The hardships that befall upon him when he toiled the farm made him aspire for better education. His father taught him that hardship is overcome by realizing that it is part of the suffering and sacrifices in life, and sacrificing one's personal convenience to attain the personal well-being is the by-product of patience and perseverance, the ingredients of success. It gave him a good perspective in life, the test of deprivation on his teenage life to be present with any activities in school during weekends and some extracurricular outings, as his presence was badly needed by his family made his life tough that pushed him harder to dream and pursue for a bright future, to finish his studies come hell or high water. So when he enrolled in college, three of them siblings find their ways to support themselves as working students. He finished his Bachelor of Science in Commerce, major in Management, at St. Paul University, Surigao City. He completed (WILL) Workers Institute on Labor Law at UP School of Labor And Industrial Relation, Diliman, Quezon City.
Further as he told, life of farmers in the place where he was raised had been really that hard. It was very difficult to just depend on the farm produce in the year round. They experienced a situation so mired in poverty with no sufficient food for the family, no budget for health of the family members and practically nothing for their education. At young age he learned to dream a better life and help his family in that dire need to uplift their economic conditions.The hardships that befall upon him when he toiled the farm made him aspire for better education. His father taught him that hardship is overcome by realizing that it is part of the suffering and sacrifices in life, and sacrificing one's personal convenience to attain the personal well-being is the by-product of patience and perseverance, the ingredients of success. It gave him a good perspective in life, the test of deprivation on his teenage life to be present with any activities in school during weekends and some extracurricular outings, as his presence was badly needed by his family made his life tough that pushed him harder to dream and pursue for a bright future, to finish his studies come hell or high water. So when he enrolled in college, three of them siblings find their ways to support themselves as working students. He finished his Bachelor of Science in Commerce, major in Management, at St. Paul University, Surigao City. He completed (WILL) Workers Institute on Labor Law at UP School of Labor And Industrial Relation, Diliman, Quezon City.
He had his teenage crush in
high school. He developed inferiority complex when his love crash rejected him
and in the process he became shy for a long while and very frustrated. He first composed his
love letter inside the church. He wrote and sent more letters, but he just received bunch of unanswered returned letters. In the church, deep inside his heart was crying and he was hurt,
the feeling and humiliation that he felt were so mentally painful, heavy and that he even thought his
soul was in agony. The perceived failure taught him a lesson not to be serious with women, this was deemed his challenge to study
harder and tried to be smart and promised not to be outdone by the women. He struggled, worked hard and successfully overcome his being timid. His
passion then with women was a little bit distorted. He had the temerity to
court girls who were even friends. Then he found out his classmate friend in high school was charming. He realized he
fall in love again. He had an intense feeling of this girl more than the other girls. She inspired him in his studies when they two of them were on steady. But he couldn't give much time with her because he had
other commitments. Unfortunately, their decision not to make public their
relationship and only pretend they were just friends did not set
well for it only did favor him to continue befriending with other girls without inhibition. Their pretenses proved disastrous and not
helping on their relationship to prosper. Untimely, nevertheless he learned his mistakes.
In reality, he is religious, a doer more than a talker, merciful, loving and caring one. He loves music though he didn’t have a good quality of voice, he is a musician in his own right. He just mimicked the songs. He loves beautiful women. He said their intelligence makes them beautiful.
One time during college break, his male friends with their girlfriends were having beach outings. He met a lady whom their friends were secretly proposing them to have
a blind date. At hindsight, his perception of all the girls was changed. It finally dawned on him that a person either he or she is capable of loving and ought to be loved and respected. He has totally changed in ways he never imagined. He met his destiny, that lady became the sister of his sister
in-law. Next is history.
when i first read this, i got a sick feeling in my stomach, then i feel for that poor naive young girl in highschool, so innocent, afraid of the constant tease of her uncles that made her to keep it a secret..yet to her it was real & had to be "mono" so faithful at a young age, that no one can distruct her even to the most persistent pursuer...it took her a long, long time to recover, to trust again...however she realized that everything happens for a reason & she truly believe on that...alas to carlos, he prosper on his dreams & passions in life! good job
ReplyDelete"A Time For Us" is a nice song coined and so fitting a paean for praise for the their romantic love when their hearts speak to the language they themselves understand it. But sad to note that it's a covenant of hope made of stone waiting yet to be unveiled. This is a song I too always wanted to hear which made me smile and sick at the same time when tears shed for heartbreaking loneliness. Thanks Tsayl!
Deletewhat a coincidence, this song have same affect on me..that's why i refrain from it totally for a decade ago, until 10/8-9 of '11. tried to hide my reaction to it from everyone, blushed so uneasy to see the actual song lyrics but sing w/ it was almost too much..glad i was stronger than some fears.
Deleteunlike these two people in a "romeo & juliet" love story, stopped, frozen...had an unfamiliar ending?..the two has moved on, lived their own separate ways..happy on their own right, embracing their present life's journey...God bless us all!!!thank you for this opportunity to voice our opinion.. you're the man of voice!!!
thank you ddc
Blogging is a way out for our emotions that just languish deep inside our being. This is the avenue that we can both muster, reminisce the sad and happy moments, put everything including the guilt feelings as part of the stride that we are going to take in moving on our life's sojourn.You've got it. Thanks!
ReplyDeletethank you from the bottom of my heart, that you make me realize how important it is to confront our fears head on. also it is true; never say never, and it is a small world afterall..once in my lifetime i experienced a so called love. then it went sour..there was a communication problem & other problems too, so when i happened to stumble upon this blog, things kind of struck me & little by little all the happenings from my past that time of my life is coming back remembering things like highschool graduation, names etc. what happened was i tried to forget everything that was painful, and hide from hurt probably or whatever reason afraid to face reality i suppose. so in short i developed the "fear of you syndrom". meaning fearful of the sight of you or to be seen by you(him). then when i thought he's completely off of my memory(out of my mind), out of nowhere, here comes some phonecalls, dreams that i've been asking, what was that, a letter, or something that would remind me of him. i thought to myself, is he trying to intimidate me? is he really mad at me that much to punish me like that? i can't help wondering why? or was it because he doesn't want me to forget him?..those are the ??? lurking in my mind & added to my fear..i can't explain it but at that time i don't even wanted to hear or mention his name anything that has something to do with him. i did'nt hate him, was i agry or mad yes to point that i learned to forgive & forget, and went away as time went by. i understand the older i got & accepted the fact. but what i didn't realize was, i only blocked all of that thinking well, we'll never see or talk to each other again, but boy was i wrong. that means it's bound to surface one day & that is why i thank God for being so real that He is good to his promise, He try to patched things up that is not right. the burden, guilt feelings that i was carrying for so long has been lifted up on my shoulder when technology came along. i didn't realize how heavy it was on me that nobody knew even me..when i come home to my hometown and a mere mention of his name, my emmediate reaction was oh no...what now? silly? maybe but anxiety kicked in, crazy as it seems but to me it was unbelievable. that's why i'm grateful for your efforts to connect because i know now, you're a good person, down to earth and very gentlemanly have a good intensions for kapwa.. peace..God is Love! i got it. thanks
ReplyDeleteThanks Tsail for sharing your eye-opener experiences. I have lots to share too. The "Invictus" poem by William Ernest Henley, the last two lines struck me; "I am the Master of my fate: I am the Captain of my soul" have greatly influenced my life's younger years to the point that I sometimes in the past put doubts or say skeptical if there really is a prior destiny ever crafted on us or a ready made FATE for every one of us despite of our having a God given freewill. Further persuades my thinking before was the fact that the freewill user has his volition unhampered and therefore should be completely responsible for whatever the outcomes of his actions.
DeleteI forgot the teaching of the book of Ecclesiastes 3:1, which says; "There is an appointed time for everything, and a time for every affair under the heavens," and 3:11 "He has made everything appropriate to its time, and has put the timeless into their hearts, without men's ever discovering, from the beginning to end, the work which God has done."
Yes I forgot that even I was totally in control of my freewill, I had no complete trust in God as manifested by my worries. If only I had wholly offered the life and let Him led all my works, I can see God's work is done in me. To the one who I transgressed, perhaps this is a proper page and this is an opportune time for me to express, that there were indiscretions in my life in the past and that I need to apologize and I now ask your indulgence. I am sorry! Though there are lot of things that I must be grateful of, like you've helped me once learned to be by being me and one way or the other helped me overcome my inferiority complex, especially the feeling on how to love and being loved and more importantly being part in the history of my life.